Playgroup participation
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[APRIL 20, 2006]
Q: I take my toddler to a playgroup twice a
week. She appears happy enough to go, yet she always plays by
herself instead of with the other children. I worry that she won't
be able to get along with others when it's time for her to go to
preschool next year. Should I be concerned?
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A:
Your daughter is showing normal behavior for her age group. Although
children are social creatures by nature, they don't always know how
to behave in social situations. Quite often, toddlers know other
children are there but don't yet understand how to play with them.
So they play alone. They engage in something called "parallel play."
They may even be sitting right next to another child when they do
this. You may notice that, in time, your daughter will start to
understand that another child can be a part of what she is doing.
For example, there might be an occasion when another child tries to
take a toy from her. Once the toy dispute is settled, the two
children may start to play together.
You can help guide your daughter at home in some of the rules of
play. Practice some of the following:
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Sharing.
Toddlers are known for having trouble sharing. After all,
they've just learned what "mine" means. To practice sharing, you
might give your daughter a toy and then ask for it back. When
she becomes comfortable with this, ask her to give you a toy.
Keep it in her sight and then return it, showing her that things
she shares will be returned.
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Taking turns.
At home, if your daughter wants to lead a game, let her.
Follow her lead, but don't let her take over. Tell her when it's
your turn to play. Practice acting as another child might. For
example, let her know if she's being bossy. Or let her know you
are tired of one game and want to play another game.
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Initiating
play. Occasionally start activities with your daughter (such
as drawing). Then invite her to suggest a different activity.
Continue taking your daughter to her playgroup, but support
independent play, too. It's where creativity and imagination come
from.
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