Daughter in preschool
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[MAY 5, 2006]
My 4-year-old daughter is in preschool.
She's been a somewhat reluctant participant but has managed to
settle in. It's been several weeks now since the end of the spring
break at her preschool, but we continue to have an emotional
struggle when I drop her off. It breaks my heart to see her cry
every morning. What can I do about this setback?
For some children, getting back on
track after a break is difficult. And it's always hard for parents
to watch their children fall apart when it's time to say goodbye.
But what's going on is normal for children at this age. It's not
uncommon for a child to say she doesn't want to go back to school or
to have her cry and cling when you drop her off.
Your daughter is still very dependent
on you. She enjoyed the security of being together during the
holiday break, and being apart makes her feel unsure again. She no
doubt also enjoyed being the center of your universe again. Now she
has to go back to sharing and compromising.
some things you can do to ease her anxiety:
school a little early so you'll have time for a special goodbye.
Give extra hugs and kisses, or leave something of yours for your
child to keep with her at school. For example, wear a scarf each
day. When it's time for you to go, take it off and leave it with
your daughter "to keep it safe." This will reassure her that you
will be coming back to get her.
picture of a clock that shows the time you'll return. Say, "When
the clock on the wall looks like this, I'll be here."
It may not
work on the first or second day, but eventually the routine will
be comforting to your child again.
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her that you'll still have special times together, even though
it's school time again. Make plans for some fun things to do on
the weekends this month.
extra time in the morning to say goodbye to her room and special
things. For the first few days, leave everything just as she left
it. It will comfort her to see that her things are not disturbed
while she is gone.
Ask her teacher if she can bring
one of her favorite things to school to share: a favorite book, a
photograph of family members or a pet. Are there objects she likes
to use from the kitchen or the garden?
Stay in touch with your daughter's
teacher about how she does. In the coming weeks, you should find
that the goodbyes are getting easier.
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