Like the swine flu, it infected more and more of that hard drive,
but the computer did not detect this tiny error. So it kept
mirroring the bad hard drive to the good hard drive until it, too,
had been corrupted.
This tiny, insignificant little something
turned my life upside down for days. As far as I can tell, this was
a digital cry for help. It is the same thing a child does when he
wants attention. He does little things he knows he shouldn't and
then has a total meltdown at the most inappropriate moment.
At times like this, instead of screaming and yelling like you
really want to, you have to stay calm and rationalize all the
reasons you should not throw your computer into the nearest body of
I couldn't receive or send e-mail. I was a virtual hermit for
days. My Web site was gone -- vanished like my waistline. If someone
tried to log on, they'd have gotten a message full of numbers and
letters that made no sense except to the geekiest members of our
My husband, thankfully, happens to be fluent in Geek, so he knew
how to fix the problem, but, he told me, it would be a few days
before we would see anything resembling my Web site again and my
e-mail contacts may look like Mish Mash Soup. (That is a concoction
my daughter used to make with dirt, leaves and small crawling things
when she was 3 years old.)
Some tiny, insignificant little something snapped in my psyche. I
started throwing things when I could have placed them gently. I took
longer, harder steps to get somewhere. My voice rose a couple of
decibels higher than it needed to be. Random drawers and cupboards
were closed more aggressively than was required. I realize now that
it was a cry for help.
My husband tiptoed around me and said things like, "I'm so proud
of you for staying so calm." My kids made themselves scarce. It may
be the first time they've willingly played outside all year.
However, when they left the door open one too many times, I locked
them out. When they said, "But I have to go to the bathroom!" I
said, "You should have thought about that before I locked the door!"
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Apparently, some infinitesimal something gave way in their heads.
They whined about not having Doritos for lunch. They trashed the
yard with multicolored water balloon fragments. They dragged every
tool out of the garage and left them on the ground. They sniped at
each other. They wrote insults to each other on the front of the
house in sidewalk chalk. This was not only mutiny; it was
definitely... a cry for help.
My husband's cry for help was more
like a bellow of rage, because not only was he trying to resurrect
my Web site and e-mail from the dead, but now his tools were all
over the yard, the house needed pressure washing and the lawn mower
would be spewing multicolored balloon fragments for months.
So, OK, we were all in chaos mode now. Some tiny part of my mind
understood that we needed help and that there was no magic wand to
wave that would make it all go away. That tiny bud blossomed into
some semblance of sanity. Clearly, we needed... milk and cookies.
Over the sweet familiarity of milk and cookies, we hammered out a
plan as a family. Everyone had a job to do and if everyone did that
job, life would get back to normal. This is the true spirit of a
cohesive family. I wasn't quite sure if we were a cohesive family or
not, but we had a plan, and if it worked, then surely we would have
passed the test. We did, indeed, pass, but only by the skin of our
teeth, which just means that we all need to go to the dentist.
As we have observed here, the only way to fix a dysfunctional
family is with milk and cookies. Now... if only that would work with
a hard drive.
[By LAURA SNYDER]
Laura Snyder is a nationally syndicated columnist,
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