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I think this is one of the reasons many fascinating women stay
unmarried. She's great to watch and study but way too
high-maintenance for a practical relationship. If you are going to
spend the rest of your life with someone, you don't want to be in a
constant state of confusion. A multifaceted woman may be too
restless to tie herself to hearth and home anyway. So even if she
had an offer from some intrepid suitor, she might turn him down out
of pure kindness.
Still, I think men like fascinating women and tend to pick one
who is fascinating enough to keep him guessing but simple enough to
sustain a mutually agreeable relationship.
My husband is the absent-minded professor type. He is a very
smart, logical, capable man. Just don't ask him where we keep the
spoons. He didn't need someone who would confuse him with
fascination. He simply wanted someone to tell him where the spoons
are.
So, he picked me. I have no need to remodel the house, move
furniture or swap out our cutlery drawer every few months. I'm happy
to leave things where they are simply to avoid being my family's
personal information booth.
However, this isn't to say that I don't have some fascinating
moments from time to time. I did move the kitchen trash bin to the
other side of the room once, just to witness the mayhem.
My most fascinating moments are when I know I'm being irrational,
but I can't seem to help myself. I'm mad, hopping mad, literally,
and in that moment, it doesn't seem to matter why.
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 If my husband thought about it, he could probably calculate about
28 days from my last irrational outburst and correctly deduce the
reason for it; but God help him if he so much as mentions that
reason.
No need to worry about that, though, because it never occurs to
him that there might be a biological reason for my insanity.
As far as he's concerned, I'm simply fascinating -- and not in a
good way.
It must seem fascinating to him that I don't like watching "The
Colony," Bear Grylls or "Deadliest Catch."
It must seem fascinating to him that I like crossword puzzles and
reading about history.
It must seem fascinating to him that I know where the spoons are.
As you can clearly see, I'm not all that multifaceted, but, thank
goodness, I've found a man who thinks I am.
What is truly amazing is that in this world of fascinating
people, we found each other, and between the two of us, we can find
love and contentment... and our spoons.
[By LAURA SNYDER]
Laura Snyder is a nationally syndicated columnist,
author and speaker. You can reach her at
lsnyder@lauraonlife.com
or visit www.lauraonlife.com
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