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Foy-Watson says it's not unusual for kids who've lived with serious illness for years to have a hard time imagining normalcy -- at the same age when it's normal to seek more independence from their terrified parents.
Courtney, of Asheville, N.C., was diagnosed at age 8 with hypertrophic cardiomyopathy, a thickened and hard-to-pump heart that's the leading cause of sudden death in young athletes. Her mother tried to shield her from doctors' death warnings, but says Courtney became anxious and depressed early on.
She had a defibrillator implanted and later heart surgery that offered only temporary relief, fueling resentment of her mother's medical choices. Courtney eventually had to give up her beloved cheerleading, and last year required home-schooling.
As a few weeks passed with Courtney still resisting a transplant, the social worker tried a new tack: A 17-year-old football player had received a new heart at Duke a few months earlier because of the same condition, and already was back at school in Raleigh. Would he meet with Courtney?
It was a gamble. No one told Josh Winstead, now 18, the reason for the meeting, and they might not have hit it off. But they did, and Courtney immediately changed her mind.
"I guess me doing what I do, being a kid, helped out the most," says Winstead, who took Courtney to his prom a week before her surgery. "It was more just showing her how normal my life is."
You hear all the advice from friends and doctors, Courtney says, "but it doesn't hit home like when Josh would tell me, 'I have the same scars you do and this is how it felt and this is how I feel now.'"
She got her new heart last month. She's recovering well and exercising in hopes of getting back to the cheerleading squad.
Her mother's helping Courtney learn to handle a whopping 33 pills a day, and is proud of how her daughter has rallied: "I'm just dealing with how to let go and let her fly, but also be the parent of a 16-year-old."
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Lauran Neergaard covers health and medical issues for The Associated Press in Washington.
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