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Your Money: Sharing family getaways without any cottage conflicts

[June 29, 2017] By Chris Taylor

NEW YORK(Reuters) - Picture it: 40 picturesque acres nestled in Wisconsin lake country.

That is the ideal getaway the grandfather of Chicago financial planner Tim Obendorf's wife built around 50 years ago. Then the property passed to the next generation, with ownership shared by four people.

Now they are thinking about the next generation: 11 potential owners.

Without the right planning, that paradise could turn into hell.

As brothers, sisters, parents, aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents gather this summer at family homes to go hiking, canoeing or swimming, there will also be arguments over schedules, property taxes or mortgage costs, and upkeep duties, along with the thousand other matters that come with shared homeownership.

"Whenever a number of families are under the same roof, conflicts are going to arise," said Jill Shipley, managing director of family dynamics for Abbot Downing, a division of Wells Fargo that handles high-net-worth families and foundations.

That is why Obendorf's family has already logged a couple of family meetings. "It's never going to be perfect, but you have to decide you value the place, more than the hassles of working through family issues," said Obendorf.

It is not surprising that vacation homes have become a point of contention. Many vacation homeowners are baby boomers: They possess the bulk of the nation's assets and are projected to hold over 50 percent by 2020, according to a study by the Deloitte Center for Financial Services. They are now beginning to retire as they hit their 60s and 70s.

The potential problems are plentiful: Is the place big enough for everybody? Who gets it on July 4th weekend? Do they split costs equally? Who cleans up, handles repairs, or stocks the fridge?

And the big one: When the owners eventually pass on - who gets the place?

How can families get the most out of shared vacation properties this summer, without either going broke or killing each other? Some tips from the experts:

* Draw up a calendar.

Just like season tickets for a sports team, some dates will be in high demand. So if the property is not big enough to handle multiple families at once - or, let's face it, you just do not get along - pick your spots. "Establish a rotating lottery each year, and allow each family member to pick their respective dates," suggests Kevin Reardon, a financial planner in Pewaukee, Wisconsin.

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Tourists leap into the air for a souvenir picture as the sun sets over Waikiki Beach in Honolulu, Hawaii, January 1, 2012. REUTERS/Jason Reed

* Write down a policy.

Everyone has different opinions of what a getaway should be, so hash it out and put it all down on paper. One key item: Whether ongoing costs like property taxes, homeowner's association dues and repairs are split equally, or allocated based on usage.

* Create an opt-out.

A sure way to guarantee family resentment: One member being forced into an arrangement they do not want. If a family cottage is being passed to the next generation, allow an escape hatch that permits one member's share to be bought out by their siblings. After all, not everyone might be able to use the property to the same extent, especially if they have moved far away.

* Bring in a pro.

Siblings, of course, do not always get along. In fact, 15 percent of adult siblings report arguing over money, according to a new survey from Ameriprise Financial (http://bit.ly/2sNIa90). To make sure everyone is heard, bringing in a trained facilitator is probably your best bet, advises Shipley.

* Have the discussion now.

"I have been in many family meetings where the kids ask, 'I wonder what mom and dad would have wanted?'" says Shipley. So if you are fortunate enough that the family matriarch and patriarch are still around, arrange a family meeting and find out what they envision for the property in the decades to come.

Maybe they want it to stay in the family, as a legacy for the grandkids. Or maybe, because of family circumstances like far-flung siblings, it would be wiser to just sell the property and split the proceeds.

*Set up a trust.

One way to take future financial squabbles out of the equation altogether: If families have the resources, they should create a trust to "fund the maintenance and ongoing use of the property in perpetuity," says Shipley. "That is one solution to reduce conflict, and keep the property in the family for generations."

(The writer is a Reuters contributor. The opinions expressed are his own.)

(Editing by Beth Pinsker, Lauren Young and Dan Grebler)

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