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 It was 31 years after Pham Ngoc Canh, 69, took that first photo
of Ri Yong Hui, before the two were finally allowed to get
married in 2002 when North Korea took the rare step of allowing
one of its citizens to marry a foreigner.
"From the moment I saw him, I was so sad because I felt it would
be a love that could never be realized," said Ri, 70, speaking
from the small Soviet-era apartment she and Canh share in the
Vietnamese capital, Hanoi.
Now enjoying freedoms in Vietnam that would be impossible in
North Korea, Canh and Ri are hoping the upcoming summit between
U.S. President Donald Trump and North Korean leader Kim Jong Un
in Hanoi will help end hostilities with Pyongyang.
“If you’re a North Korean, you want to see this resolved. But
politics is complicated," Ri said. "When people first heard Kim
Jong Un decided to meet Trump, they expected reunification to
happen soon. But that’s hard to realize in just one or two days.
I hope things work out well.”
Today one of Asia's fastest growing economies and integrated
into the international community, Vietnam has been touted as a
model for isolated and impoverished North Korea to follow.
Back in 1967, as Vietnam and the United States were locked in
war, Canh was one of 200 Vietnamese students sent to North Korea
to gain the skills the state needed to rebuild itself once the
war was over.
Several years later, during a chemical engineering
apprenticeship at a fertilizer factory on North Korea's east
coast, Canh spotted Ri working in a laboratory.
"I thought to myself, 'I must marry that girl'," said Canh, who
eventually plucked up the courage to approach Ri and ask her for
her address.
Ri obliged: Her friends had told her one of the "Viet Cong"
working at the factory looked just like her, and she was
curious.
"As soon as I saw him, I knew it was him," said Ri. "He looked
so gorgeous".
"Until then, when I had seen so-called handsome guys I hadn't
felt anything, but when he opened the door, my heart just
melted".
But there were challenges. Until this day in North Korea, and in
Vietnam at the time, relationships with foreigners are strictly
forbidden.
GUERRILLA ACTION
After the couple exchanged several letters, Ri agreed to let
Canh visit her at home.
He had to be careful. A Vietnamese comrade had been beaten when
he had been found with a local girl.
Dressed in North Korean clothes, Canh embarked on the three-hour
bus journey and two km walk to Ri's home - a trip he repeated
monthly until he returned to Vietnam in 1973.
"I went to her house secretly, just like a guerrilla," said Canh.
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Upon his return to Hanoi, Canh felt disillusioned. The son of a
high-ranking cadre, Canh refused to join the Communist Party,
forgoing the bright future the state had planned for him.
"I just couldn't agree with a socialism that stops people from
loving each other," Canh said.
Five years later, in 1978, the Vietnamese chemical engineering
institute Canh was attached to organized a trip to North Korea.
He asked to join, and managed to meet Ri. But every time they
saw each other, Ri said, she became more heartbroken at the
thought that they might never meet again.
He had brought with him a letter he had written to the North
Korean leadership, begging for permission for them to marry.
"When she saw the letter, she asked: 'Comrade, do you intend to
persuade my government?", said Canh, who never sent the letter
and instead asked Ri to wait for him.
THE WEDDING
Later that year, Vietnam invaded Cambodia, triggering a border
war with China. With North Korea on the side of Beijing and
Phnom Penh, the couple stopped writing.
"My mother was crying while caring for me," said Ri. "I think
she knew that I was lovesick."
In 1992, Canh again managed to get himself on a trip to North
Korea as a translator with a Vietnamese sporting delegation, but
couldn't meet Ri. When he returned to Hanoi, Canh found Ri had
sent him a letter.
She still loved him.
In the late 1990s, North Korea was gripped by a devastating
famine and a desperate delegation from Pyongyang visited Hanoi
to ask for rice. Vietnam, which by then had undertaken major
economic and political reforms and re-engaged with the West,
refused.
Canh was so concerned for Ri and her people that he raised seven
tonnes of rice in donations from friends to send to North Korea.
It was an act of generosity which finally paved the way for he
and Ri to reunite: The North Koreans learned of Canh's act and
agreed he could marry Ri and live in either country - provided
Ri maintained her North Korean citizenship.
In 2002, the two finally married in the Vietnamese embassy in
Pyongyang, and settled into their new life together in Hanoi,
where they still live today.
"In the end, love beat socialism," said Canh.
(This story was refiled to add dropped word in paragraph 26)
(Reporting by James Pearson, Kham Nguyen and Khanh Vu.; Editing
by Lincoln Feast.)
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