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Henry recalls fond memories

By Henry Dews

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[January 13, 2024]  Those puritans and pilgrims that left Mother England to settle in the New World rather than suffer further religious persecution were cut from stronger timber than most. They brought with them little more than strong backs and a can-do attitude. Their self-reliance and courage in the face of unbelievable hardship either killed them or made them stronger.

This rugged individualism became the keel upon which our ship of state was built. My mother’s parents Mildred and Buck Defrees were made of the same timber. They were a testament to that spirit brought over by those early colonists, and I am proud to say I inherited much of that spirit, which is a story for another day.

My grandparents owned and operated the Midway Café here in Lincoln for decades. Open for breakfast and lunch, the small cafe accommodated about twenty souls. Granddad, who also ran a lawn care business, opened the restaurant at six a.m., which meant he lumbered the few yards from their house on the corner of Jefferson and Fifth to the back door of the business at four-thirty each morning. He would fire up the grill, start coffee, and cook breakfast for the early birds then leave to tend to his other obligations after the day cook and waitress came in at seven. Grams (we weren’t allowed to call her grandma or grandmother) would come in at nine after seeing to the necessary bookwork and shopping.

My grandmother, a diminutive black-haired attractive woman, always glowing, good natured, friendly, and personable possessed all the required skills of a hostess. She was an actress, and the Midway Café was her stage.

Buck, stooped shouldered, hardworking and industrious, silent and moody was the backstage manager. When he wasn’t mowing grass or tending necessary tasks at the eatery, he was tilling the soil, planting seed, and performing all the various jobs of raising a substantial garden whose seasonal produce made its way to the tables of hungry customers. Produce not readily used was gladly accepted by neighbors.

In addition to the vegetable garden there were blackberry bushes and a couple peach and apple trees. My mouth still waters when I think of the blackberry cobblers Grams would bake and serve swimming in rich cream. We would press berries through a colander turning our hands the color of that “purple people eater” some may recall from a long-ago novelty song. Adding sugar to the juice and mixing with carbonated water from the café, we had ourselves a beverage that today has been commoditized.

But the biggest treat when visiting were the café raids allowed by an over- indulgent grandmother. With me being the oldest of her four grandkids, first thing she’d do upon our arrival was hand me the key to the café and say: “Junebug (that was her nickname for me until I finally put a stop to it) take the kids over for treats. If you can imagine the affect of allowing four kids loose in a wonderland of pie, cake, cookies, candy, ice-cream and soda had on the profit margin of a small restaurant then you can understand the scowl on Granddad’s face as we headed out to plunder those undefended sweets.

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After this pillaging had been allowed to run out-of-control for sometime, Buck finally put his foot down and pulled back on the throttle of this cavity express. For Buck it was all about dollars and sense. And having had her favored way of expressing love derailed, Grams didn’t argue. She might have said, “Love is blind,” or better yet as author William Kent Krueger accurately wrote in This Tender Land: “But the heart isn’t the logical organ of the body.”

Granddad, a Republican and like most folks back then voted a straight ticket, died in 1989—the year Reagan vacated the White House. Looking back, I seriously doubt Buck knew our cowboy president was on record having said: “Hard work never killed anyone but why risk it?”

Henry Ford’s innovations in production went on to influence manufacturing across the board including assembly line sandwiches. So with the arrival of a fast-food joint across the street from the Midway forever altering the landscape, the café’s fate was engraved in stone, nudging closer the end of that era of self-reliant individualism. I suppose it’s only human nature not to know what you miss until it’s gone—such is the case for many attributes of Americana forsaken but not forgotten.

But the closing of that era saw the advent of a new one wherein nostalgic paraphernalia (ironically made in China) harkening back to the good old days can be purchased at countless outlets dotting highways and byways “from sea to shining sea,” with historic Route 66 getting more than its share of annual travelers in search of that something lost. I’ll let you the readers ask yourselves: “Is the loss of that self-reliant, can-do spirit been worth the price for what some call the “McDonaldization” of our culture?”

It may seem rather silly to the reader for me to dream of a revival of that bold spirit that made this country a testament to self-motivated, individual initiative, but I’ll keep that dream alive because our ever-growing reliance on Uncle Sam, who like an overly protective loving parent, has taken its toll on our collective spirit. That our need for government assistance continues to swell our national debt—currently dancing at the door to the tune of $34 trillion—poses a serious threat to national security, i.e. foreign powers, not necessarily friendly, hold many of our IOUs.

I’ve recently relocated to Lincoln. If anyone would care to share memories about the Midway Café, or Mildred and Buck Defrees, I can be reached at dewdropin58@gmail.com

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