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Step back and enjoy
the role of grandparent

[SEPT. 21, 2002]  URBANA — "When I was raising my kids…," "That’s the way we always did it," and "My kids turned out OK" are common phrases spoken by grandparents when discussing child-rearing techniques.

"Grandparents sometimes find it difficult to let their adult children parent, especially if it conflicts with their beliefs," said Cheri Burcham, University of Illinois family life educator. "Opposing values, religious differences, distance and strained relationships can also add to the dispute between generations."

Burcham has some advice for grandparents. The most important thing to remember is that you are the grandparent, not the parent. Respect your children’s right to raise their children, and follow their lead. Be supportive and loving, and ask your children how you can be of assistance to them.

Don’t compare your child-rearing techniques to theirs. Much has changed in the area of child development and the information available to parents. "The most beneficial thing to do is read and update yourself on these new developments. You still may not agree, but at least you will understand where your children are coming from," said Burcham.

The most frequent cause of conflict is miscommunication between generations. Instead of meddling and giving advice, offer concerns that are expressed tactfully. Pick your battles carefully. And don’t bring up the past but focus on the present.

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"Criticizing adult children in front of the grandchildren is a big no-no," said Burcham. "If grandchildren sense the stress between generations, they may use this to their advantage by playing one off of the other."

According to an AARP survey, 50 percent of responding grandparents stated that they frequently play the role of friend or companion to their grandchild. "By adopting this view of the relationship, it certainly alters the grandparent’s viewpoint of the child in respect to discipline and child-rearing," said Burcham.

"Step back and enjoy the role of grandparent — it’s one you don’t want to miss," added Burcham. Grandchildren can bring out your inner child, make you feel young again, and give you someone to share your history with. Also, as a grandparent, you may have more time and resources to share with your grandchildren than you did with your own children.

"I recommend that you let your adult children take the lead in rearing their children and that you don’t interfere unless your grandchild’s safety and well-being are threatened," said Burcham. "The role of grandparent can be very positive and fulfilling and can add a valuable dimension to the family that benefits everyone."

[U of I news release]

Animals for Adoption

Found dog

Rescuers seek dog owner

We are seeking help in finding the owner of a dog found on Monday, Sept. 16, wandering on Old 66 near the Burwell office building. The dog, an unaltered male poodle/terrier or schnauzer mix, was thin and wet, as if he had been out loose for a few days. He had no collar. He was very willing to go with the woman who stopped to rescue him from the highway. He is very friendly and seems to be house-trained. His mostly black fur had been clipped within the last month, so somebody had been caring for him in the recent past.

We have contacted local groomers, vets and animal control with no response so far. If no one claims him soon, we will find a new home for him. The owner can contact us at 735-1413, Monday-Friday, 8 a.m. to 4 p.m.

Quail management workshop

[SEPT. 19, 2002]  Illinois landowners, sportsmen and others who want to see bobwhite quail numbers improve are invited to attend the free Landowner’s Quail Management Workshop on Saturday, Sept. 21, from 9 to 1 p.m. at the Ulrich family’s Sugar Creek Farm.

The workshop includes a program on quail management, a habitat tour, free lunch and a drawing for a shotgun.

The farm is seven miles west of McLean, or eight miles east of Interstate 155, and just south of U.S. Route 136. There will be workshop signs to follow. Go south on 1600th Avenue for 1.2 miles, then one mile west on Road 2575.

Register in advance by calling (217) 732-2010, Ext. 3 or send your name and the number of people attending to Quail Workshop, NRCS, 1650 Fifth St., Lincoln, IL 62656. Advance registrants will have their names entered in a drawing for a shotgun donated by Quail Unlimited.

For more information, interested landowners and sportsmen may also call the Department of Natural Resources at (217) 784-4730.

The workshop is co-sponsored by Illinois and Logan County Quail Unlimited, Illinois State Habitat Stamp Fund, USDA Natural Resources Conservation Service, Southern Illinois University, Logan County Soil and Water Conservation District, University of Illinois Extension, and the Illinois Department of Natural Resources.

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