Raising Successful Children'
struggles with monitoring homework
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[MARCH 25, 2005]
daughter has always been a good student. But now that she is in
middle school, she resents it when I check up on her homework. I
agree with her when she says that it's her responsibility, but I can
see that she can't handle it very well. I don't think she always
gets it done on time. I'm afraid her grades will drop. I'm concerned
because we're heading toward the end of the school year. What should
It is important that you set some basic
rules for homework with your daughter. But she's right! At this age,
you shouldn't have to hover over her to make sure she gets her work
done. It's time to prepare your daughter for more independence and
responsibility, both at school and at home.
Here's how you can help her take more
responsibility for her homework:
- Help her find a way to track
assignments, such as using an assignment notebook or a large
calendar in the kitchen. Occasionally, ask if she has anything big
coming up. Show her that you're interested, but don't nag every
- Respect her learning style. Some
people really do work better with soft music playing or while
sitting on the floor. But the TV should be turned off.
- Let her decide if she wants to do
homework right after school or wait until later, but help her
develop a homework routine to follow every day.
- Sometimes your daughter may let
responsibilities slide. If so, she'll have to face the
consequences. She may get a zero for a missed assignment or have
to cancel plans she was looking forward to. But don't bail her
out. If you do, she will see no need to take responsibility for
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some basic ideas to build responsibility:
- Have your daughter take over some
life-management tasks. Let her be the one to call the doctor or
dentist to schedule her appointments.
- If she's not already responsible
for doing her own laundry, assign her that task.
- Open bank accounts -- both
savings and checking -- and help her learn how to use them
Give your daughter as much
responsibility as she can safely handle. Teens need lots of growing
room. Whenever you can give her a chance to make a decision for
herself, do so. This will give your daughter a taste of the
responsibility that will be expected once she hits high school --
and later on in life.
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